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Living with a Disorganized Partner

March 14th, 2015

Looking back, I see a clear pattern in my life.

Oddly enough, as a professional organizer, I seem to attract amazing men that also happen to be extremely disorganized.

At first, I would be excited to support them in getting organized. However, after many (failed) attempts to solve their disorganized mysteries, and multiple (failed) systems later, I would always feel depleted and resentful – two emotions that are extremely uncomfortable to admit to.

With my current partner, I’m proud to say I was able to shift my perspective to avoid previous disasters. I have accepted that my partner will never be able to get his keys into the key tray near the front door, ever, no matter how awesome I think that system is.

living with a disorganized partner

So, I took on the organizing as my role in our family and made a trade.

I traded my organizing time for his cooking time.

With this fair trade, I was able to keep my resentment at bay. My only wish is that I had thought of it sooner.

Do you think this system would work for you? For me, it was trading time and for you it may be something else, like other household tasks you loathe. Sometimes, even regular love notes are a great trade-off.

However you arrange it, I wish you the best of luck finding the perfect balance for you and your amazing (and disorganized) partner.

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